THE WAY WE WERE

                     MEMORIES ARE BEAUTIFUL AND YET PRESENTED BY STEVEN SCHILLER

INTRODUCTION

And yet, what`s to painful to remember we choose to forget.

1. In Pr 4:1,2,3,4-5, we find Solomon pleading with his children to seek after

wisdom...

a. Through a collection of discourses

b. Extolling and illustrating the value of wisdom time and again

2. In Pr 4:6,7,8,9,10,11,12,13,14,15,16 we find Solomon sharing recollections of his

childhood...

a. Of his own father (David)

b. Exhorting him to seek after wisdom

As we examine we will find how the how the.

important principles in raising children to be godly and seekers of

wisdom. The first memory might be stated in these words...

I. "I WAS TAUGHT BY MY FATHER"

A. HIS FATHER HAD ACCEPTED HIS RESPONSIBILITY...

1. To teach him - Pr 4:3-4

2. A responsibility placed by God on fathers - Ep 6:4

3. Not given to churches or schools per se

a. They may serve as aids

b. They should not become crutches

4. For they are inadequate to teach as God intended - Deut 6:

6-9

a. God's Word is to permeate the household

b. Something the church and school alone cannot provide

-- Blessed are children that have fathers who accept their

responsibility!

B. WHEN FATHERS FAIL TO FULFILL THEIR CHARGE...

1. They will be held accountable

a. Eli tried to correct his sons - 1 Sa 2:22,23,24-25

b. But failed to his power to restrain them - 1 Sa 3:10,11,12-13

2. The responsibility has to be taken up by others

a. Timothy was blessed to have a godly grandmother and mother

- 2Ti 1:5

b. They evidently taught Timothy the Scriptures as a child

- 2Ti 3:15

-- Blessed are children that have mothers who provide where

fathers do not!

So Solomon was taught by his father, one of the greatest gifts a father

can give to a child. But we note also the following recollection from

verse 3...

II. "I WAS TAUGHT WHILE TENDER"

A. THE TEACHING OCCURRED...

1. While young enough to be impressionable

2. Open to what the father has to say

-- While he was willing to do what the father says

B. TEACHING OFTEN OCCURS TOO LATE...

1. After the child gets into trouble

2. After the child begins to question everything parents say

-- When a child is more likely to disregard or disobey

C. TEACHING NEEDS TO BEGIN EARLY...

1. Long before they are in school with other children

2. Where peer pressure and poor behavior will encourage them to

disobey authority

3. Where even some teachers will encourage them to reject parental

authority

-- Before the child is exposed to unsavory influences

Teaching by a father needs to occur while the child is still in a

position to be shaped and directed in the right way. Now for another

thought we can glean from Solomon's childhood memories...

III. "I WAS TAUGHT BY AN ANXIOUS FATHER"

A. THE ANXIETY OF HIS FATHER IS IMPLIED...

1. By the exhortations: "Get wisdom! Get understanding!" - Pr 4:5

2. By the warnings: "Do not forget, nor turn away...do not

forsake" - Pr 4:5-6

-- His father was anxious regarding his son's learning

B. FATHERS TODAY NEED TO BE ANXIOUS...

1. In view of what is going on in schools and society in general

(violence, sex, drugs)

2. In light of what is happening in many churches (apathy,

worldliness, apostasy)

-- Community and sometimes the church no longer provide supportive

roles

C. FATHERS ANXIOUS FOR THEIR CHILDREN...

1. Will take the time to teach their children when they need it

2. Will implore God for wisdom in raising their children

3. Will be willing to sacrifice success and prestige in business

to spend time with children

-- Fathers, do we have anxiety over the welfare of our children?

Finally, consider what Solomon's father was anxious for him to

learn...

IV. "I WAS TAUGHT THE IMPORTANT THINGS"

A. HE WAS TAUGHT TO VALUE WISDOM AND UNDERSTANDING...

1. To make wisdom the principal thing in life

a. "Get wisdom! Get understanding!" - Pr 4:5

b. "Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in

all your getting, get understanding." - Pr 4:7

2. To love, exalt, and embrace wisdom

a. "...Love her, and she will keep you." - Pr 4:6

b. "Exalt her, and she will promote you..." - Pr 4:8

c. "...She will bring you honor, when you embrace her." - Pr 4:8

3. To appreciate the benefits of wisdom

a. "Do not forsake her, and she will preserve you..." - Pr 4:6

b. "She will place on your head an ornament of grace;" - Pr 4:9

c. "A crown of glory she will deliver to you." - Pr 4:9

-- Solomon's father wanted him to be wise above all else

B. FATHERS OFTEN STRESS THE TRIVIAL...

1. Too often, if a father spends any time with his children it is

on things like:

a. Sports

b. Mechanics

2. Too often, the principal concern of fathers is that their

children get:

a. College degrees

b. High paying jobs

3. Yet such things are potentially harmful!

a. Worldly success presents many temptations

b. Many children have been destroyed by the careers encouraged

by their parents

-- Without wisdom and understanding, our children will not be able

to handle success!

CONCLUSION

1. Solomon could look back on his childhood memories with happy

recollections...

a. I was taught by my father

b. I was taught while tender

c. I was taught by an anxious father

d. I was taught the important things

2. Because Solomon's upbringing stressed the value of wisdom...

a. We should not be surprised of his answer when given a choice

- 2Ch 1:7,8,9-10

b. Who chose wisdom over riches, honor, and long life, and was

blessed by all - 2Ch 1:11-12

3. Who would not like a son like Solomon? To have such a son, we must

be like his father...

a. Not perfect, but still "a man after God's own heart" (David)

b. A man with a similar attitude toward God's word - cf. Ps 19:7,8,9,10-11

Fathers, are we telling our children these words...?

"Wisdom is the principal thing; Therefore get wisdom. And in

all your getting, get understanding." - Pr 4:7

Change your life seek God, read the bible, obey the gospel of Jesus Christ.

HEAR

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REPENT

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